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There is an old saying that all healthy couples fight. While it is true that all healthy couples actively encounter and work through conflict, it is not necessarily true that all healthy couples must or need to “fight.” Fighting normally … Continue reading
We all have filters. Our filters are created from childhood, past relationships, what others modeled for us by their example, and how we intersect with culture. Everyone has different experiences that inform each person’s filters and lenses. These filters are … Continue reading
Are you willing to try an experiment? Find something to take notes with. Choose one day this week. Mark the beginning and ending times whenever you find yourself with a screen in front of your nose. A screen could be … Continue reading
Getting Together, Part 5 – Communicating as Equals Couples often struggle with communication. The inability to communicate leads to all sorts of misunderstandings, failures to resolve problems, and cycles that build up to create significant dissatisfaction with the relationship. Fisher and … Continue reading
Part 4 – Getting Together: Building Relationships as We Negotiate Couples often struggle with communication. The inability to communicate leads to all sorts of misunderstandings, failures to resolve problems and cycles that build up to create significant dissatisfaction with the … Continue reading
As many of us go through the day, our feelings fluctuate depending on contact with different people. When one person walks into the room, we instantly feel lighter and more energetic. It is easy to be oneself with this person, … Continue reading
One of the most common items couples struggle with is communication. The inability to communicate leads to all sorts of misunderstandings, failures to resolve problems and cycles that build up to create significant dissatisfaction with the relationship. Fisher and Brown, … Continue reading
Great News about Empathy: New research shows effort matters more than getting it right
If you sit in a restaurant and look around sometimes you can determine who is married and who is still dating. A couple still dating hangs on each other’s every word, while the married folks sometimes stare off into space. … Continue reading
Compassion in Healing Relationships
Compassion involves observing the suffering of another and feeling a desire to help alleviate the suffering. Compassion in a counseling setting is by nature non-judgmental, accepting, and grants what Carl Rogers labeled “unconditional positive regard.” This is what is … Continue reading