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There is an old saying that all healthy couples fight. While it is true that all healthy couples actively encounter and work through conflict, it is not necessarily true that all healthy couples must or need to “fight.” Fighting normally … Continue reading
We all have filters. Our filters are created from childhood, past relationships, what others modeled for us by their example, and how we intersect with culture. Everyone has different experiences that inform each person’s filters and lenses. These filters are … Continue reading
Many people struggle with anger. We may have numerous, overwhelming commitments to family, home-life, work, school, and community that can leave us feeling depleted and stressed. It seems there are not enough hours in the day. Endless tasks create a … Continue reading
Our culture chases after many things in an effort to fulfill our desire for happiness. We spend a considerable amount of our time following the dictates of what others say will make us happy. Society promises better friends if we … Continue reading
Getting Together, Part 5 – Communicating as Equals Couples often struggle with communication. The inability to communicate leads to all sorts of misunderstandings, failures to resolve problems, and cycles that build up to create significant dissatisfaction with the relationship. Fisher and … Continue reading
We are in full holiday swing. Along with the festivities come parties, good food, presents, laughter, and twinkling lights. We gather with family and friends to celebrate our relationships and remember another year together. We also may find ourselves becoming … Continue reading
As many of us go through the day, our feelings fluctuate depending on contact with different people. When one person walks into the room, we instantly feel lighter and more energetic. It is easy to be oneself with this person, … Continue reading
Not a day goes by without the need to make decisions. Big and small. What am I going to eat? What do I want to wear? Do I take the kids to the park or play in the yard? Which … Continue reading
“Wake Up” by Kabir Do you have a body? Don’t sit on the porch! Go out and walk in the rain! If you are in love, then why are you asleep? Wake up, wake up! You have slept millions and … Continue reading
Compassion in Healing Relationships
Compassion involves observing the suffering of another and feeling a desire to help alleviate the suffering. Compassion in a counseling setting is by nature non-judgmental, accepting, and grants what Carl Rogers labeled “unconditional positive regard.” This is what is … Continue reading