Don’t face the aftermath of infidelity alone. Therapy can help you find a way through

When adultery occurs it feels like the floor has gone out from beneath your feet.  

For the resolute partner, it’s so hard to come to grips with the reality that the person you relied on to journey through life is not the person you thought they were.  For the partner that went outside of the marriage, there is difficulty knowing how to proceed, what to disclose, and how to make sense of what happened. Both people often struggle with whether to try to keep the marriage together or give up and start over elsewhere.

When couples are facing infidelity, a solid couples therapist is invaluable. A good couples therapist will respectfully work with both people to face the issues in front of them and help them navigate the uncertainties of the situation.  

What is Infidelity

Infidelity, commonly known as adultery, occurs when one partner engages in intimate or romantic interactions with someone outside of the committed relationship, breaching the trust and fidelity expected within the partnership. It’s a profound breach of trust that can leave individuals feeling devastated, betrayed, and questioning the foundation of their relationship.

Surviving Infidelity

When adultery strikes, it’s akin to having the ground pulled out from under you. For the resolute partner, it’s a staggering realization that the person they trusted and relied on isn’t who they believed them to be. Meanwhile, the unfaithful partner grapples with guilt, confusion, and the daunting task of rebuilding trust. Both individuals may find themselves at a crossroads, uncertain of whether to fight for the relationship or walk away.

Signs Your Marriage Will Survive Infidelity

Despite the profound pain and turmoil that infidelity brings, some marriages can weather the storm and emerge stronger on the other side. Signs that your marriage may have the resilience to survive infidelity include a shared commitment to open communication, genuine remorse and efforts to repair from the unfaithful partner, and a mutual desire to rebuild intimacy. Seeking guidance from a skilled couples therapist can also significantly enhance the chances of healing and reconciliation.

When to Walk Away After Infidelity

While some marriages can overcome the trauma of infidelity, others may reach a point where separation is the healthiest option for both parties. If the unfaithful partner refuses to take accountability for their actions, continues to engage in deceitful behavior, or if trust cannot be restored despite sincere efforts, it may be time to consider ending the relationship. Ultimately, each individual must prioritize their emotional well-being and make the decision that aligns with their values and needs.

Chantail green, LPC

Meet Dr. Green

Chantail Green is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and a post-graduate certificate from Fuller Life. She is a certified sex therapist candidate and holds a doctorate degree with a specialization in sexuality.  

Chantaill specializes in helping couples or individuals navigate the aftermath of infidelity to help them find the healing and hope they need to move forward.  She sees clients online in the state of Texas.

Call Chantail today to schedule an appointment at (832) 685-2018.

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