Teletherapy, Is It Right For Me?

Posted by Angela Blocker on

August 3, 2020

Since the outbreak of COVID19, many healthcare professionals have switched to telehealth platforms, including counselors and therapists! Called Telemental health or teletherapy, it is the use of telemedicine to provide mental health assessment and treatment from a distance, such as online or through the phone. For those of us more accustomed to traditional face-to-face therapy sessions, it is normal to feel hesitant, uncomfortable, or even skeptical. However, teletherapy does have its benefits and can be very effective.

Here Are Six Things to Know:

Your Confidentiality is a Priority

Confidentiality is the foundation therapy builds upon and is crucial to a trustworthy relationship between therapist and client. For this reason, counselors take extra precaution to protect you when offering services through the phone or online. Information transmitted online offers more opportunities for privacy leaks and hacks. Counselors are required to use HIPAA approved online platforms that protect your personal information each step of the way. These platforms reduce the risks of breaches occurring over the internet and your private information being compromised.

Teletherapy Increases Access to Treatment

Physically traveling to and from a therapy office can be cumbersome or even impossible for some, especially for those who are sick or disabled. Telemental health extends care to those physically unable to come in for treatment. It also allows you and your therapist to continue care if either is ill but well enough to engage in the session. Telemental health also provides a safe alternative when severe weather prevents travel or during times of social distancing, as we are experiencing now with COVID-19.

TeleMental Health Increases Options in Type of Treatment and Therapist

Finding therapists with specific areas of expertise such as trauma, marriage, grief, or a certain mental health disorder may otherwise be limited by physical traveling distance; but, telemental health extends access to therapists across your state. Teletherapy also makes it easier to find a therapist who speaks the same language or is more experienced working with a specific cultural group.

The Quality of In-Person Therapy is Not Lost

The rapport between you and your counselor is important. Many are concerned that the screen or phone will create a barrier that makes the therapeutic process too impersonal. However, compared to face-to-face therapy, there is no significant difference between the perception of the working relationship between the client and the teletherapist. There was also no significant difference in overall satisfaction with services. When one study controlled for technological difficulty, the study indicated that session smoothness and depth were not significantly different from in-person treatment either.

Your Safety is Important

Since teletherapists are physically distant from you, responding to a crisis is more tricky than being in the room with you. However, your teletherapist will create a safety plan with you before the first session begins just in case! This helps to ensure safety in the event of an emergency.

Teletherapy is Effective for Kids, too!

One qualitative study showed that kids and teens tend to feel more comfortable with technology than adults when in therapy remotely. Children also felt they had more choice in the process of therapy. In some cases, telemental health has been shown and hypothesized to be better for some kids than in-person care, like those with some autism spectrum disorders. Some children with ADHD had a higher satisfaction rate when using teletherapy as opposed to traditional therapy.

Telemental health can be a new and exciting way to experience therapy during this time. At the same time, teletherapy is not for everyone and it is important to share any concerns with your therapist who has expertise in navigating telehealth benefits and challenges. We work with you to help you choose the best course of treatment for you! For more tips on creating a confidential space for teletherapy, frequently asked questions about telehealth, or information on getting started with teletherapy at Fuller Life, you can read more here or to ask a question feel free to email us at info@fullerlifefamilytherapy.org.

Self-Care in the Time of Corona

Posted by Manet Castaneda on

June 22, 2020

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Difficult Times

As our nation and world around us is surrounded by news of the COVID 19 epidemic, it can be very easy to neglect self-care due to the different struggles that can arise from this unique situation. It is not uncommon to experience feelings of anxiety, depression, loneliness, confusion, and even anger during this difficult time. Because of this, it is important to deal with these emotions in ways that are helpful and healing. Self- care is one way in which we can deal with difficult emotions and situations. Keep in mind that self-care is what we do (or stop doing) to take care of and improve our mental, physical and spiritual lives. Below are a few ways in which you can practice self-care during this particular situation that we are all facing as a community.

Practice Gratitude

Practicing gratitude has been found to have a positive impact on how our bodies and minds feel. When we practice gratitude, this stimulates oxytocin in our brains, and this helps relax the nervous system. There are two ways in which we can practice gratitude. The first is to practice gratitude for within, that is to say, being grateful for your life, body, breath, mind, strengths, etc. The second way we can practice gratitude is outwardly by being grateful for others, our pets, nature, resources, and other elements outside of us.

Seek Social Connections

During the quarantine, it can be difficult to maintain in touch with others, however it is still important to seek out those connections for support. Having a community or a tribe of people that you can count on can help reduce the feelings of loneliness and isolation. Some ways we can keep in touch during this time is via video phone calls, writing text messages, writing letters, or social media. With any relationship, it is important to be intentional about the type of communication you have, so find ways to be creative with your communication during the time of Corona.

Stay Active

Keeping an active lifestyle can keep improve your mood and boost your energy levels. During the quarantine it can be hard to find ways to exercise, so take some time to research various at home workouts that are available on the internet. Find ways to be creative with your workouts, try new forms of exercise that perhaps you have always been interested in. Make it a social activity by including your family members or roommates. Consider making a schedule that fits your daily activities so that you are more likely to stick with it.

Seek Help

Lastly, if you find yourself having a hard time with the isolation and the issues that have come up as a result of the quarantine, it is highly encouraged to seek professional help. Many organizations including our own (Fuller Life Family Therapy Institute) are offering telemental health services. If talking to someone about your struggles is something you are considering, now might be a good time.

Categories : Anxiety & Panic, Anxiety Issues, Covid-19, Depression, Gratitude, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Mindfulness Practice, Parenting, Relationships, Self-Care Practices, Stress Management

Tags : anxiety, depression, gratitude, physical well-being, self care

Vicarious trauma: When we feel the pain of someone else’s trauma

Posted by 1-Lindsay Perry on

May 21, 2020

Being on the front line in times of crisis can be difficult and draining. For those in helping fields, these kinds of crises can be an everyday experience. When does it become too much to carry? How do we know when the stress goes from what’s expected from the work we do to something that is significantly impacting our lives? If this feels familiar, you may be experiencing vicarious trauma or compassion fatigue.

During this time when the world is experiencing a health crisis, is it possible to feel someone else’s trauma from the news stories we see?

What is vicarious trauma?

Vicarious trauma can be described as the direct or indirect exposure to someone else’s trauma that impacts one’s own physical and/or psychological well-being. This is also known as compassion fatigue or secondary trauma. Those who are in a helping or rescuing role are at risk for experiencing vicarious trauma. You may be thinking this sounds like burnout, but burnout can be described as workplace stress that impacts one’s physical or psychological well-being. The important difference here is that, unlike burnout, compassion fatigue involves being exposed to someone else’s trauma. In being exposed to someone else’s trauma, your life can be negatively impacted by what you’ve seen or heard in those helping or rescuing experiences.

Signs of compassion fatigue

We can start to understand whether our experience is workplace burnout or vicarious trauma by being aware of how we think, feel, and behave in our everyday life. There are multiple signs of dealing with compassion fatigue. These include, but are not limited to:

Physical exhaustion
Mental and emotional exhaustion
Insomnia
Nightmares
Use of or dependence on alcohol, drugs, or addictive behaviors
Lack of ability to empathize with others
Workaholism
Hyper-vigilance (constantly being worried about the safety of yourself and others)
Cynicism (a belief that everyone is acting out of self-interest and outlook of the world is bleak)
Anxiety (often feeling nervous, scared, or constantly thinking of things that could go wrong)
Depression (feeling numb, unmotivated, and exhausted)
Anger (getting easily angry to a degree that is inappropriate to the situation)

What if this is you?

Experiencing vicarious trauma can take a toll on your overall well-being, but there are things you can do to prevent and cope with it.

Contact Fuller Life Family Therapy

Here at Fuller Life Family Therapy, we have a group of trained professionals who can help individuals who are dealing with vicarious trauma. For more information, or to schedule an appointment, please email us at info@fullerlifefamilytherapy.org or call our main number (855) 245-5433.

Resources

Good Therapy – Vicarious trauma

Psychology Today – Vicarious trauma and the professional interpreter

Psychology Today – When vicarious trauma victims suffer from PTSD

Psychology Today – Trauma workers at risk for compassion fatigue

Contributed by Lindsay Perry, LPC Intern

Clinical supervision by Amy Fuller, PhD, LMFT-S, LPC-S

Categories : Counseling, Mental Health, Self-Awareness, Sticky, Trauma and Loss

Tags : mental health, self-awareness, trauma

When Grief and Spirituality Intersect

Posted by 1-Stephanie Jordan on

March 30, 2020

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In light of the recent global novel Coronavirus pandemic that spread and claimed the lives of hundreds of thousands of people in local communities, cities, states, and countries around the world, many individuals are experiencing grief in the midst of this calamity. Some have lost loved ones due to the virus, are unable to have or attend funerals for the deceased loved one, are personally suffering from or know someone suffering from the virus, are dealing with the psychological and emotional effects of “social (physical) distancing,” and are worried about meeting the most basic needs for their family’s survival and livelihood. These concerns, among others, have caused many to experience some form of personal grief, or an existential crisis in spirituality.

Death itself, whether untimely or anticipated, sometimes leaves unanswered questions. Dr. Mark Kellenman, author of the book, “God’s Healing For Life’s Losses” examines the complexities of life’s unanswered questions; in the midst of death and in the midst of human suffering. His book offers readers a perspective on grief, spirituality, and hope through the Divine Redeemer. Although the book is specifically written for individuals of Christian faith, the concepts and perspectives shared may be applicable to other religious faiths as well. This blog will share grief perspectives from the book on how to move from depression to hope on one’s grief journey.

Traditional Perspectives on Processing Grief

Many people are familiar with the five stages of grief model first introduced by psychiatrist Elizabeth Kübler-Ross. She speculated that an individual experiences denial (stage one), anger (stage two), bargaining (stage three), and depression (stage four), before coming to acceptance (stage five). The model suggested that grief occurs in a sequential process until they reach the final stage.

Dr. Kelleman, however, viewed the five stages of grief model as too one-dimensional. Noting that individuals tend to deal with their grief in separation from others which leads to feelings of spiritual abandonment, social betrayal, and feelings of shame and self-contempt. Dr. Kelleman believes this causes spiritual depression.

Spirituality Perspectives on Processing Grief

Dr. Kellenman’s grief model, which he describes as God’s Positioning System (GPS), explains grief as a multi-dimensional process, where individuals respond to grief by integrating spirituality into their grief process. The model introduces eight stages. Four stages address hurt and four stages address hope.

Four Stages of Hurt	Four Stages of Hope
Candor: Practice honesty with myself.	Waiting: Groaning with Hope.
Complaint: Honesty with God.	Wailing: Trusting with Faith.
Cry: Ask God for help.	Weaving: Perceiving with Grace.
Comfort: Receive God’s help.	Worshiping: Engaging with Love.

The eight stages describe how grievers can suffer a loss and come face-to-face with God. The traditional grief responses, introduced by Kübler Ross, are not to be minimized. Dr. Kellenman encourages grievers to learn how to move from denial to personal honesty, from anger to honesty with God, from bargaining to asking God for help, and from depression to receiving God’s help.

Moreover, the four stages of hope describe how grievers can take God’s hand and journey forward in life (acceptance) while facing the realities of their loss. Dr. Kelleman, calls this “creative suffering.” That is, creative suffering converts the suffering that batters and causes depression, into hope that, The Redeemer can bring healing to hurting hearts.

Journeying in Hope: An Alternative Perspective

Dr. Kelleman, explains the journey of grief can be emotional, complicated, and messy. It comes with hills and valleys and good days and bad days. It is normal to feel hurt and it is necessary to grieve. Remember that taking the journey with God places one’s trust and faith in His good character and his good heart that better days will come. Likewise, contemplating suffering from a grace perspective nurtures alternative ways to view life’s losses where hope can flourish, and spiritual growth can mature.

Reference:

Kellemen, R. W. (2010). God’s healing for life’s losses: How to find hope when you’re hurting. Winona Lake, IN: BMH Books.

Categories : Anxiety Issues, Counseling, Covid-19, Depression, Depression, Bipolar, Mental Health, Spirituality, Trauma and Loss, Unemployment

Tags : anxiety, death, depression, grief, Grief Models, healing, loss, mental health, spirituality, trauma and loss

Fuller Life Family Therapy: Covid-19 Update

Posted by AmyFullerPhD on

March 17, 2020

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updated 3-31-20

A Letter to Our Clients

This message is to all our clients and potential clients at Fuller Life Family Therapy.

We know that there’s widespread concern in our community about the Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19), and we want you to know that your health is our top priority at Fuller Life Family Therapy Institute. Please refer to the CDC website and the World Health Organization website for up to date information.

We are available

During this unprecedented time, we are working hard to make sure access to therapy is available. At Fuller Life Family Therapy, telemental health therapy sessions are now in place through our HIPAA-compliant video conferencing tool. Existing clients will be contacted with details or can call the office for set-up instructions. New clients are encouraged to call and set an initial appointment which can be conducted through our telemental health platform. All clients will need to read and sign our Telemental Health Informed Consent.

For now, our physical offices are closed but our staff is still available. Please let us know what we can do to help you and yours during this difficult time.

Online Therapy is Effective and Secure

Research shows that technology assisted therapy can be just as effective as in-person appointments, and we can continue your care without interruption. The online therapy will be offered through a HIPAA compliant program. With many schools and companies going online, some of these programs are becoming overloaded and as we work through this transition, we may offer more than one online option as we try to find the best fit. Please accept our apology for unexpected technical difficulties for those we do see online.

No cancellation fees

All cancellation fees due to illness will be waived through April 30th, 2020 and may extend that date as needed. We will inform everyone of any additional changes and we hope to help each and every one of you get through this difficult time.

In order to utilize technology assisted services please read and sign the Consent form for Telemental Health. This consent is in addition to our current consent form. Please talk to your therapist if you have any questions or concerns about using technology assisted therapy services.

Refer your friends

If you know anyone that is having a difficult time, please have them reach out to us and we will do our best to help.

We’ve included some resources below to help you maintain your mental health during this challenging time.

Thank you from the therapists at Fuller Life Family Therapy.

Here are some articles you may find helpful during this time:

Categories : Counseling

The unexpected reality of intimate partner violence

Posted by Terry Hoisington on

February 16, 2020

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Sometimes relationships are surprising – and perplexing. What begins as an ideal match in the eyes of others, can be a disappointing world of nightmares.

When this relationship with an intimate partner appears different in public than it is in private, it may be time to examine the direction that the relationship is growing into.

How do you know when it is time to examine your relationship? One red flag is when the “ideal” relationship only exists in public. Sometimes, the private relationship is very different than the one shown to others.

Is there reason for discomfort?

If examining the relationship brings definite feelings of discomfort, there may be valid reasons for that feeling. Consider the following points.

Does your partner:

try to control what you are doing, check your phone, e-mail or social media without your permission?
force you to have sex when you don’t want to?
attempt to control your birth control or perhaps insist that you become pregnant before you are ready?
decide what you wear or eat?
decide or how you spend money?
humiliate you in front of others?
prevent or discourage you from seeing or visiting with friends, or family.
unfairly accused you of being unfaithful?

If you can answer yes to any one of these questions, you are likely experiencing domestic or intimate partner violence (IPV).

IPV is sometimes difficult to identify. Many people have a reaction of “Whoa, not me, my husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend loves me.” Love is not just about romance though. It is about respect, and respect has no room for violence in any form.

IPV is about control and abuse in any part of a person’s life. This control or abuse may be experienced in social activity, finances, religion and even sexual activity. What is helpful to understand is that IPV is very subtle and progresses over time.

What is Intimate Partner Violence?

Society tends to think of violence as being solely physical abuse. However, emotional abuse can be just as, or even more, damaging. IPV is a physical episode of being hit, beat, or pushed. It may be a situation of being blamed for a partner’s violent outbursts. It is important to realize that IPV is not limited to physical violence. Statements such as “If I can’t have you, then no one can” also qualifies as IPV. Verbal insults, humiliation and put-downs are also forms of IPV. It can also involve hurting or threatening someone’s children or pets.

As defined by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, Intimate Partner Violence is

“…violence or aggression that can vary in frequency and severity and occurs on a continuum ranging from one episode that might or might not have lasting impact, to chronic and severe episodes lasting over a period of years.”

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention tells us that IPV can be four types of behavior:

Physical violence is when a person hurts or even tries to hurt a partner by hitting, kicking or using any other type of physical force
Sexual violence is forcing or trying to force a partner to take part in a sex act, touching or sexting when a partner does not or cannot consent
Stalking is a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention/contact by that causes fear or concern for safety of self or someone close to the victim
Psychological/emotional abuse occurs when a person is verbally humiliated, shamed, controlled or isolated from family or friends

What is emotional abuse?

Emotional abuse often leads to any one of the other three types of IPV. It is far more subtle and less talked about since it leaves no scars on the outside. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging. Katie Ray-Jones, president of the National Domestic Violence Hotline (NDVH) stated in an interview with Cosmopolitan.com that one woman told her…

“I can still hear his voice in my head. Even though I’ve been out of the relationship for three years, I still feel like I’m sitting there.”

Another individual relayed a similar experience indicating that trauma from emotional abuse was evidenced 10 years after the event.

In many cases, the victim’s confidence, self-esteem and perception of their world are slowly undermined by the partner’s need to dominate or control. Counseling psychologist, Carmel O’Brien, Fellow of the Australian Psychological Society, says

“…what comes across again and again is that there’s someone in the relationship who thinks that their views are more important, their needs have to come first, and they basically should be making the decisions and the other person should be toeing the line.”

How does IPV impact its victim?

IPV does not discriminate! It can happen to anyone, anywhere, regardless of gender or sexual preference, economic status, religious, ethnic or cultural group. In whatever form it takes, IPV is never OK, and can result in consequences such as, but not limited to

poor physical health
depression and/or anxiety
trauma or posttraumatic stress
feelings of guilt or shame
low self-esteem or self-harm
an inability to trust others

It is important to understand what IPV looks and feels like. Resources are available to find help when discomfort in a relationship occurs. If you or a person you know is involved in Intimate Partner Violence, please reach out for help. A few resources, both national and local, can be found below.

Resources to find help

The resources below are good places to start reaching out for help or to receive guidance:

National Domestic Hotline – call 1-800-799-7233 or use the secure online chat in English or Spanish
ACF’s (Administration for Children & Families) Family Violence Prevention and Services Program administers the primary federal funding stream dedicated to the support of emergency shelter and related assistance for victims of domestic violence and their children.
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: State Coalition List provides a directory of state offices that can help you find local support, shelter, and free or low-cost legal services. This includes all U.S. states, as well as the District of Columbia, Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands.

Find help in the Houston area:

Bridge Over Troubled Waters (713)473-2801 in Pasadena, Texas – Provides residential shelter in a family atmosphere for women & children in crisis, as well as counseling and educational services
Family Time Crisis and Counseling Center (281)446-2615 in Tomball/Humble, Texas
Houston Area Women’s Center (713)528-2121 is a Hotline
Houston Area Women’s Center
Domestic Violence Hotline: (713)528-2121, Rape Crisis Hotline: (713)528-7273
The Montrose Center (713)529-0037 on 701 Richmond Avenue, Houston, Texas77006 – Population: Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual and Transgender survivors of domestic violence can call the Gay & Lesbian Switchboard (713)529-3211
The Montrose Counseling Center provides around the clock, scattered site emergency shelter for LGBT survivors of domestic violence, as well as transitional housing. Advocacy & counseling services also are available.
Bay Area Turning Point Webster, Texas(281)286-2525 – Provides emergency shelter for battered women and children
Fort Bend Women’s Center located in Richmond, Texas, (281)342-4357 Provides safe shelter for battered women and children (under 18 years of age). Counseling and referrals provided to shelter residents.
Houston Volunteer Lawyers (713)228-0732 Provides pro-bono civil legal services, including family law, for low-income residents of Harris County who meet eligibility requirements.
Legal Line (713)759-1133

Contributed by:

Terry Hoisington, LPC-Intern

Under Supervision of Amy Fuller PhD, LPC-S

Categories : Boundaries, Counseling, Couples, Domestic Violence, Marriage, Relationships, Trauma and Loss

Tags : abuse, boundaries, couples, Domestic Violence, intimate partner violence, trauma

Premarital Therapy: For a Holly Jolly Relationship

Posted by 1-Elisa Squier on

December 24, 2019

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It’s that time of year. The weather is getting cooler, the holidays are approaching, and for many that means taking that next step in their relationship. If you’re thinking about giving a ring for Christmas, it might be time to make sure your relationship is as cozy as the holidays.

A common misconception is that therapy is only for people who have “major” problems they need to work through. Some couples believe that they only need to speak with a professional when at least one of them starts throwing around the word divorce. That doesn’t have to be the case! Therapy can be helpful at all different stages of the relationship. A couple might decide that they want to start thinking about marriage, but maybe haven’t had those important conversations about what married life might look like. This is where premarital therapy can help any couple start off on the right foot.

What is Premarital Therapy

Premarital therapy can come in many different styles. There are several different types of structured programs, such as the Prepare Enrich program or the Preparation and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP). Many times, these programs involve doing an assessment before the sessions to look at the main areas of a relationship, such as finances, attachment styles, and communication. The assessments highlight areas of strength, as well as areas of growth. Through work with a therapist, the couple can learn to build on what they are already doing well together, while talking through the areas where there might be disagreement or uncertainty.

There are also less formal styles that rely solely on conversations rather than assessment tools. This is geared more towards couples who may have a particular concern that has already popped up. Premarital talk therapy is just as also effective. It just depends on what the couple is looking for.

Benefits of Premarital Therapy

Many times, couples start off a relationship thinking that it’s perfect. People don’t tend to get married thinking it will end in divorce. Many people think they don’t need to talk about what hasn’t happened yet, sometimes afraid it might lead to a fight that didn’t need to happen. “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

However, this may lead to anger and frustration in the future as things come up that couples thought they were on the same page about, but never actually discussed. communicated about. By having conversations related to all areas of the relationship, the couple can begin to lay a solid foundation for a relationship that can survive whatever curveballs life throws. It is so much easier to talk through potential conflicts while you’re still happy and in love, than when you’re angry and hurt.

As an added bonus for engaged couples, the completion of a program through “Twogether in Texas” can earn them a discount on their marriage license.

How to Get Started

There are many places that offer the structured premarital programs. Be aware that not all facilitators of these programs are licensed therapists, so be picky when choosing a place program. Visit the websites and read the bios of the people you might be interested in. Look at their experience and areas of expertise. Think about what kind of support your relationship might need, and choose a facilitator appropriately suited for that. Your relationship deserves the best.

Many of our therapists at Fuller Life do premarital therapy, both structured programs and regular talk therapy. Elisa Squier and Tamara Tatum are both registered Prepare/Enrich facilitators and are accepting new clients.

Give you and your partner the gift you both deserve this holiday season: a happy, healthy relationship to last the seasons of life.

Contributed by Elisa Squier, M.MFT, LMFT Associate

Clinical Supervision by Amy Fuller, PhD, LMFT-S, LPC-S

Categories : Couples, Premarital, Relationships

Tags : couples, engagement, marriage, premarital therapy, prepare/enrich, relationship

Fa-la-la-la-blah! Beating the Holiday Blues

Posted by 1-Stephanie Jordan on

December 17, 2019

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The holiday season taunts itself as “the most wonderous time of the year,” but is it really? For some, the holidays are not always joyous and festive; rather, they are a challenging and emotional time of year for various reasons. An array of stressors, such as lack of time, financial worries, over-commercialization, and gift giving, along with the demands of parties, shopping, entertaining, and family get-togethers, may cause a wide range of emotions. These demands and stressors may produce feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, loneliness, and grief during this time of year, commonly referred to as the “holiday blues.”

Below are a few questions for personal reflection with suggestions to help combat and balance the effects of “holiday blues.”

Gratitude or Grievance?

It depends on a person’s feelings and what they dread or welcome. On the one hand, feeling grateful, appreciating others, or showing kindness to one another seems easy and natural during this time of year. However, on the other hand, complaints, resentments, and gripes are also a real possibility. Consider these two questions:

What is one thing you are feeling in anticipation of the holiday?
What are you most/least looking forward to about this holiday?

Tip: One’s state of mind determines whether they feel gratitude or aggrieved. How a person makes meaning from what they anticipate will happen during the holiday season, whether positive or negative, can affect how they identify with and experience the holidays. Stay calm, gather your thoughts, and make a plan that will help minimize foreseeable challenges.

Dealing with disappointments

Alas, the best laid plans… Everyone has their own idea about what they want to happen during the holidays. Therefore, when things do not go as expected, misunderstandings and disappointment can result. Then what? Ponder this question:

What is one thing that you always hoped would happen but never does, and how are you going to handle it this year?

Tip: It is important to choose the right attitude and understand that, unfortunately, life is not perfect, and neither are the holidays. Try managing expectations to avoid feeling overly disappointed. Recognize mistakes are bound to happen, regardless of how well things are planned. Try not to expect people to change. Seek compromise whenever possible, find forgiveness, and simply let things be.

The true meaning of the holiday season

Over-commercialism tends to undermine the meaning of the holiday season. Year-after-year sensationalized Christmas TV commercials, along with Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales, can diminish the true spirit of Christmas. To keep perspective this Holiday season, reflect on this question:

This year I will remind myself the importance of ______.

Tip: Excessive commercialism can often spoil the true meaning of Christmas. Take time out to personally reflect on why Christmas is celebrated. Remember what is most important. Choose to hold on to these things during this holiday season.

While the holiday blues are a real phenomenon, remember these feelings are temporary. Take meaningful action to move through whatever emotions, attitude, and state-of-mind the season brings. Find ways to make Christmas a special day for the right reasons. Keeping context in perspective will help with finding gratitude and hope. Holding on to these things can help make the holiday’s the most wonderous time of the year.

Happy Holidays from the Fuller Life family!

Stephanie Jordan, LPC-Intern, Resident Therapist, Supervised by Amy Fuller PhD, LPC

Categories : Anxiety Issues, Emotions and Relationships, Family Therapy, Gratitude, Grief, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Self-Care Practices, Stress Management

Tags : Christmas, holiday blahs, holiday blues, holiday season, meaning of the Holiday, self care

The Recipe for a Resilient Family

Posted by Tamara Tatum on

November 23, 2019

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Every family experiences some form of hardship. Have you ever noticed how some families seem to bounce back, perhaps even using their trials for good; while others never quite seem to recover? What makes some families more resilient?

Family resilience is the ability to “withstand and rebound from disruptive life challenges, strengthened and more resourceful” (Walsh, 2011). While it may seem that some families are ”born” with an inherent ability to withstand difficulty, the good news is than any family can grow their resilience (Pogosayan, 2017).

Dr. Froma Walsh is a family therapist and leading expert on family resilience. She has identified nine main ingredients for family resilience, divided into three categories: belief systems (what the family thinks and believes); organizational patterns (how the family acts and relates to one another), and communication patterns (how the family speaks and communicates). Any family can mix together these nine ingredients to make their own, unique family resilience “recipe.”

Belief systems

Resilient families…

Are able to make meaning of the adversity, perhaps by normalizing the hardship or viewing it as an opportunity for growth.

Have a hopeful and positive outlook. They seize opportunities and persevere.

Have a sense of purpose, larger values or some form of spirituality/faith to lean on.

Organizational patterns

Resilient families…

Are flexible and able to adapt to new circumstances while also maintaining some stability (rituals, routines, strong leadership).

Are connected and supportive of one another. They respect each other as individuals.

Have social and economic resources by mobilizing the support of kin, social and community networks.

Communication patterns

Resilient families…

Have clear communication. They seek and speak truth.

They are open with their emotions and willing to share a range of feelings without blaming or “lashing out”.

Are able to tap into their inner resourcefulness and collaborate to problem solve.

At Fuller Life, we believe there is hope for all families to thrive after a hardship. We are here to walk alongside as you do. Resources Pogosayan, M. (2017). What Makes Families Resilient?https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-cultures/201710/what-makes-families-resilient Walsh, F. (2011). Family resilience: a collaborative approach in response to stressful life challenges. Resilience and mental health: Challenges across the lifespan, 149-161.

Contributed by

Tamara Tatum, LMFT-Associate

Tamara Tatum, Resident Therapist

Supervised by Amy Fuller, PhD, LMFT-S

Categories : Communication, Covid-19, Family Therapy, Parenting, Problem Solving, Relationships, Sticky

Tags : Communication, families, resilience

Here Are Six Things to Know:

Your Confidentiality is a Priority

Teletherapy Increases Access to Treatment

TeleMental Health Increases Options in Type of Treatment and Therapist

The Quality of In-Person Therapy is Not Lost

Your Safety is Important

Teletherapy is Effective for Kids, too!

Difficult Times

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Traditional Perspectives on Processing Grief

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