Feel the Fear And Grow Anyway: A Simple How-To
Growth is a buzzword these days, especially with the new year approaching. Everyone talks about goals and strategies for the months ahead. But what often gets left out of the conversation is the anxiety that can come with growth.
Setting new goals and facing new challenges can feel overwhelming. When we see growth as one giant task, it can feel like too much to handle. This pressure often causes anxiety, making it harder to move forward.
So, how do you grow even when anxiety is present? What does it look like to take steps toward your goals while still carrying that nervous feeling?
Let’s explore some practical steps to help you move forward, even when anxiety joins the ride.
Step 1: Pause and Assess Your Feelings
Before you dive into a new task or goal, take a moment to check in with yourself. Ask:
- What emotions are coming up for me right now?
- Why am I feeling this way?
- How can I name and acknowledge these feelings?
By recognizing what’s going on inside, you create space for awareness. This doesn’t mean your anxiety will disappear. But it allows you to approach your goals with clarity.
Step 2: Define Your Goal
What exactly are you trying to achieve?
Clearly define your goal or objective. A well-defined goal is easier to tackle than a vague one.
For example: Instead of saying, “I want to get fit,” try, “I want to exercise for 30 minutes, three times a week.”
How to Keep Going When Anxiety Lingers
Anxiety doesn’t always go away. But that doesn’t mean you can’t grow.
When you feel anxious:
- Take deep breaths.
- Remind yourself that growth is a process.
- Celebrate small wins along the way.
Each step forward, no matter how small, is proof of your progress.
Step 3: Break It Down
Big goals often feel overwhelming because they seem too large to handle. Break your goal into smaller, bite-sized pieces.
Think of each step as a puzzle piece. Completing one piece at a time brings you closer to the whole picture.
Step 4: Prioritize Your Steps
Which task should you focus on first?
Start with the most pressing or easiest step. Taking action on smaller tasks builds momentum and boosts your confidence.
Step 5: Pace Yourself
Growth is not a sprint—it’s a marathon.
Take your time. Remember, it’s okay to move at your own pace. Rushing only adds to anxiety, so be kind to yourself as you progress.
Final Thoughts
Growth and anxiety often go hand in hand. Instead of avoiding the feelings, lean into them. With small steps, clear priorities, and self-compassion, you can keep moving forward.
It’s okay to grow at your own pace—because every step you take matters.
Resident Therapist
Shayla Johnson
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